Tuesday, June 21, 2011



I come to you as a recently married woman who needs to vent about divorce.

So... Hi, my name is Kris. I love my husband. He will always be the love of my life and he will be the man I am still married to when I DIE. So, please stop asking "is this your first marriage" or telling me things like "I was excited when I married my first husband, too", "the first {marriage} is the most frustrating, but it gets easier each time" or the most common, before Coy and I got married "DON'T DO IT!"... Wow, really? I realize divorce is getting really popular but what happened to getting divorced for legitimate reasons like "My husband likes other men" or "My wife beats me with a bat, if I don't clean the house". Not for fun.. The other day, I read a story about rocker Jack White and his (soon-to-be ex) model wife Karen Elson, who threw a party to announce their amicable divorce. After a marriage that lasted six years, the couple has publicly called it quits. I don't think I'm overreacting when I say that this is becoming quite the trend. After all, I read another story about this same phenomenon just a week ago in The New York Times. Hmmm. I'm giving this one some serious side eye...and here's why: So many people marry for childish, narcissistic reasons (think: big party where I, in my Miracle-Whip-parade-float-of-a-gown, will be the focus of attention). So it only follows that divorce parties, which speak to that same instinct, will catch on like wildfire. Then, other people look at me and other woman who truly want a strong marriage and says things like "Marriage is just too hard". Ya think? From Day one, you have think about another person when you do anything, make any decision. This same someone is the the one who knows how to irritate you. So.. if you aren't willing to make a marriage work from the beginning then don't do it because you are making marriage look bad.

I'm sorry if I offended anyone. I know there are lots of people who divorce for legitimate reasons, but so many divorces are ended over silliness, too. Please give me your thoughts.